At every given moment, we have a choice on how to live life: by default as a victim or with intention as a creator.
On October 1, 2007, doctors diagnosed my mom with cancer, and five weeks later she passed away, not even giving us a second to grasp what had just happened. From this period of time, the only memory that resonates in my mind comes from three days before she passed away. All I can remember is seeing her, weak from her last strong chemo treatment and unable to speak, spending hours slowly writing her last words, “Life is full of surprises, enjoy fully.” At that moment, something hit me. It was like I had just awakened from the biggest nightmare of my victimized life. I realized these were no ordinary words, but inspiration and wisdom that would carry me into my life’s purpose and would eventually become my mantra.
Though I did make many of my own decisions, they stemmed from my inner dialogue that I, a woman, was nothing special, only the male species were the "chosen" ones. Family, friends, culture and movies heavily influenced me. A lie that I came to believe by none other than myself. Even after creating my first successful online business in 2005, DivaVillage, and being featured on Oprah.com as a chosen community leader (to help raise awareness for Oprah Winfrey’s and Eckhart Tolle's online course, “A New Earth”) I was still not fully ready to embrace my true essence, the magnificent beauty that runs through my veins. I continued to hide behind the men in my life, letting them stand in my “light” and making my success theirs.
After seeing my mom pass away at just 60 years old and then becoming a single mom to three kids after 18 years of marriage, I realized life is way too short to live small. If I continued on this path, I would be misguiding my kids, dishonoring my mother, and, most of all, disrespecting myself! I wanted to create, love and live! I wanted to make a difference in the world. I had a dream: To live life purposefully and to awaken to a higher way of thinking, living, and believing! I realized at that moment that it was time to do what made ME happy.
I started to follow the advice of self-help gurus and created my first real Dreamboard, an organized visual representation of all your dreams and goals. I spent over two weeks going through magazines, cutting images and creating intentions. This board displayed all the dreams I wanted to experience, from various energy healings and ayurvedic massages, to cabana huts in Koh Samui, Thailand. Three weeks after I created my Dreamboard, I got a call from my brother asking me to join him on vacation. My first thought was, “There is no way I can go! I have 3 kids, a business, and employees to attend to. I have too much to do and not enough money.” Still, my brother demanded I find a way to do it because he was booking a first class ticket for me, reserving a fully paid private cabana in an exclusive resort with unlimited food and all the premium services I wanted.
Needless to say, I found a way. I went and experienced my dream come true: yoga under a tree, past life regression, healing sessions, tai chi, enchanting tea with a tea master, and at least 2 massages a day – all expenses paid! Two weeks after I came back, I was sharing my experiences with a friend on the phone and happened to be taking a closer look at the picture of cabanas on my Dreamboard. I realized that I had gone to the exact location of the pictures on my Dreamboard and didn’t even know it!
After I successfully manifested my dreams and goals depicted on this Dreamboard, I knew there was some power behind it that I wanted to share with the online world. Thus, I dedicated the next three years to finding a way to motivate others through my experience, and with the help of my team we launched DreamItAlive.com on 11-11-11.
We can’t control each step of our lives, but we have the power to create our dreams and the direction of our life. Though I learned it the hard way, I am here to help you understand that you are not alone. You have the force of the universe, the power of Universal Law, guiding you to achieve what your heart truly desires. All you have to do is BELIEVE!
We can go through life by other’s guidance, or we can harness the Universal Law, known as the Law of Attraction (LOA), and focus on intentionally bringing more positive things into our life while minimizing the negative. Everything has a vibration. From the foods we eat, the friends we associate with, to the thoughts we have--they all create a vibrational frequency.
The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like”, and therefore we attract experiences into our life that match the vibrational frequency that we vibrate at. Just to go a bit deeper into LOA, we have two minds: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind works through logic and reasoning, and the subconscious mind works through what we constantly feel, think about and repetitively focus on. The subconscious does NOT know what is or is not real, and it has the ability to attract physical things and experiences with which we vibrationally match. Given this information about our subconscious, the more we repetitively visualize what we desire with positive emotion, the faster our desires manifest into reality.
Another thing to help the manifestation process is to keep your frequency at its highest potential by engaging in life activities that emit the same emotions as the ones we experience while visualizing our desires, dreams and goals. In other words, the more we experience the feeling of having what we want, the faster we will have it. For example, if you have a dream/goal to build a business that will help the world, you should visualize it daily with the joy of achieving this dream. You can also speed up the manifestation process by engaging in life activities that allow you to experience the same authentic feeling of joy as you did when visualizing. This is the Law of Attraction in action.
However, keep in mind when dreams do not show up as fast as we want them to or just don't show up at all, chances are we have a block or a resistance to them which delays or detracts the dream from ever showing up. In order for LOA to work, we need to be fully ready and open. So if we have struggles "attracting" the perfect relationship into our life, chances are we might be dealing with some self-love issues. Before we try to love others, we first must love ourself!
Always remember, feelings like enthusiasm, love, joy, bliss, hope, courage, gratitude, freedom and trust emit high frequencies. Stay away from feelings that emit a lower vibrational frequency, which will push your desires away, such as fear, grief, guilt, worry, disappointment, resentment, insecurity and sadness. Visualize what you truly want on a daily basis and be enthusiastic about it. Engage in life activities that match that same enthusiasm and get ready to attract the life of your dreams.
A seasoned web publisher and entrepreneur Anita Rani has spent the last several years changing the lives of online consumers for the better. She started this journey with two Web sites aimed at empowering women and mothers, and has most recently co-launched a third site focused on making dreams a reality. Anita comes from a robust line of successful entrepreneurs. She started her first online company, DivaVillage-a site launched in 2005 with a goal to "awaken women's unique inner diva," which offers content on inner and outer beauty. DV has served millions of visitors and has also been featured on Oprah.com as a chosen community leader to help raise awareness for Oprah Winfrey and Eckhart Tolle's online course A New Earth. After studying alternative methods of healing and wellness, Anita gained certification in reiki, feng shui and Oneness Blessing as a healer. She has also completed the Intuitive Program, developing skills to guide individuals and companies to achieve their highest potential. Other areas of study include Law of Attraction, Power of Intention and Dreamboards. With her enthusiasm abundant, Anita will continue to help others live life radiantly for many more years to come.